I RUN, THEREFORE, I AM: Nasty Comments

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Nasty Comments

When you join the wide world of blogging, you open yourself up to nasty comments. I've seen several posts and tweets that could elicit a mean response, but what's the point? I could respond in kind with an ugly retort, IF they person leaving the comment was brave enough to NOT use the anonymous option.

I'm not even sure why, but I got two comments yesterday on this post. It was written back in November 2011, so I'm really confused as to why not one, but two people were looking at it, but hey, any blog traffic is good, right?!

I got a great comment from one reader encouraging me to take a good look at my diet to ensure that I wasn't erasing any gains I got from running by stuffing my face later. He ended with this:

"But nobody ever became great by just 'accepting' greatness, great people fight great battles to get there. SO go get your victory and make life your bitch."

I was stoked to read this and truly appreciated him taking the time to write a comment.

On the other side of the spectrum, this is what ANONYMOUS posted:

"If you wore pants that fit, you wouldn't have a muffin top."

Is that reader correct? Probably. I wear the pants I own. It's what keeps my weight from getting out of control. I'm cheap and I can't really afford a new wardrobe, so it's in my best interest to stay a certain size. Also, I've found that if I bought pants that fit my hips, they would fall right off. My legs are muscular, but not big. I'd be walking around pulling up my pants all day.

I've spent the last hour being frustrated with such a rude comment. I'm done with it. But please explain to me why people feel the need to be anonymously rude...

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luv2bdiffrnt 41p · 666 weeks ago

I have no answer for you other than they get a kick out of it. Either you, know that you write an awesome blog and chances are they are not frequent readers and their point was to get under your skin. Hugs to you!

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jengoods 38p · 666 weeks ago

Thanks Heidi. You always make us feel better!

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MizFit · 666 weeks ago

I always think IT ISNT ABOUT ME. SOMETHING IN MY POST SPARKED SOMETHING IN THEM WHICH THEY ALREADY DIDNT LIKE IN THEM (good gosh does that make sense?)
it isnt about you.

xo

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jengoods 38p · 666 weeks ago

Thanks for the reassurance. You're ABSOLUTELY right. Just felt like getting it off my chest:)

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fancynancy14 56p · 665 weeks ago

I agree with MizFit! You probably hit a nerve with them that they were personally struggling with. All that time leaving nonsupportive comments on people's blogs leave little time for exercise!

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jengoods 38p · 665 weeks ago

Good point! I can think of so many constructive ways to use that time spent being mean!

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milesmusclesmom 1p · 665 weeks ago

trolls. Anon, really?? grow a set.

don't let it get to you.
I love what MizFit had to say.

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jengoods 38p · 665 weeks ago

Well said! If it wasn't an anonymous, I might have said it myself:)

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Katie @WishandWhimsy · 665 weeks ago

Continue being true to you. That person is struggling with something in their own life. You keep being wonderful you!

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jengoods 38p · 665 weeks ago

Thanks Katie!

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Megan · 665 weeks ago

I always view my muffin top as the incredibile journey my body undertook while creating my two girls, the hips came for pregnancy and never left....i'll take it anyday

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jengoods 38p · 665 weeks ago

Another excellent point! My Weasel weighed in at 10 pounds 1 ounce. She needed those hips for extra room!

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taraburner 43p · 665 weeks ago

the trolls and haters are usually upset with something about themselves and/or are jealous so they lash out....I posted about something similar last night (early this morning) http://taraburner.com/health-wellness/indulge-enj...
let the comment roll off and know you're doing YOU! and that's what its about :)

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jengoods 38p · 665 weeks ago

Good advice Tara! Your post is AMAZING! Way to tell the haters and trolls!

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livefromlaquinta 54p · 665 weeks ago

I can just reiterate what everyone has said. Those ball-less trolls that are too scared to leave their name are really just hating themselves so they want to spread the "joy." They are jealous-of happiness, success, whatever it is that they feel they don't have.

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jengoods 38p · 665 weeks ago

I'm loving that these commenters are called trolls:) I've never heard that before this post. Hilarious and so true.

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fitknitchick 32p · 665 weeks ago

Totally agree with Miz on this one. Whenever I am taken aback by some criticism levelled at me, I think long and hard about where it came from. No point in wasting my positive energy on it; it's THEIR problem!

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jengoods 38p · 665 weeks ago

Definitely a waste of energy to worry even a minute about this troll!

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pensive pumpkin · 665 weeks ago

another blog i read always starts arguments in the comments section, and when this happens there they say "Don't feed the troll." love that.

also, i'd invite that anonymous troll to take ME clothing shopping. i cannot speak for you, since i don't know you IRL, but as for me- it took me hours to find a pair of pants that looked even that good, at least at a price i was willing to pay. shopping isn't fun if you don't fit the model. so if my muffin top bothers them that much, they can take me to the store and spend the next few hours of their life watching me cry while i try to remedy that.

and now i'm gonna go run some stairs. just because i enjoy it, and not having anything to do with my muffin top. but if i find a troll under there, i'm gonna slap it for you.

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jengoods 38p · 665 weeks ago

Hope it was a great workout! I logged 5 with some fellow mother runners and didn't give a single thought to my muffin top thanks to all you wonderful readers!

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Christine (@cyu888) · 665 weeks ago

I'm sorry that you had to go through this. It hurts when you get a negative comment or criticism especially when we are putting so much of ourselves out there. What I try to remember is that, like Miz said, It isn't about me. They don't know *me* or my story and that they are often reacting to a image or stereotype that they have in their mind or an image/issue they have with themselves. It's so easy to knock someone down and hide behind an anonymous comment. Keep doing what you are doing.

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jengoods 38p · 665 weeks ago

Thanks Christine. I guess this happens to most bloggers eventually:( Just glad we're all positive people!

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Pavement Runner · 665 weeks ago

Cheer up charlie… remember Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory. It all worked out for Charlie, so I always have that song in my head. Don't worry about what the negative crap ppl say on the interwebz. They say it protected by a screen and a user name. Often times what they point out or dislike about other ppl are issues that they dislike about themselves. I think I learned that in Psych class or something.

Be happy with who you are. Be strong and own it.

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jengoods 38p · 665 weeks ago

Wiser words have prevailed from all of you! Thanks for the kind message and I have already let it go:)

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